Accepting Flaws as Parents

In my 5 years of teaching and 3 years of being a parent, I've come across with many situations with other parents, some good, some not so good (from my point of view). It's quite interesting how family's dynamic is clearly shown through attitudes in children, in different social situations, specially among peers.

One of the things that is really unconfortable for a teacher is to deal with parents in denile. It seems that saying the truth of their child's behaviour is "offensive". So we have to say the truth with lots, lots, lots of nice touches for them to kind of swallow it. But the denile is still present. I've come to the conclusion that is difficult for today's parents to accept faults. It's better and easier to just close your eyes and imagine everything is "ok". And because people don't dedicate time to their kids, they try to "be there for their kids" reinforcing what teachers are trying to make better.
Anti-values such as narcisism are quite present in modern civilization.  The fact that something is wrong with our children means that we are "bad" parents. But, let's face it, much of our children's problems are due to poor parenting skills. That's why it's basic to know your child.
Get to know your child is involving and connecting with that little person from the very beginning. Remember that the first 5 years are crucial for bonding and getting involved with your kid. "Getting involved" doesn't mean to watch TV all day together. It's playing , talking, listening, and loving.
Why is this related to our children's behavior? Securely- attached children are happier. Happy people are balanced, which means they are builders, not destructors. Happy people are leaders, not despots. Securely-attached children are in touch with emotions, so they don't harm others. This is because from the beginning parents gave a series of tools for the child to feel protected and loved.
So accepting our own problems and doing something about it will help us be better parents. It's incredible how we can see ourselves in our children. That's why well balanced, loving people seems to have it easy on parenting.
Most of the mothers I´ve met that are happy wives, have happy kids. Happy kids might not be the brightest students, but believe me they are better persons. At the end, academic performance it's not a proof of how good parents we are. The harvest of your dedication will be when your son/daughter becomes a "well- balanced" adult, with no need of adictions, with no stuggles, just happy.